As divorce rates go higher and higher each year, many might ask why marriage is still around. Couples decide on a whim that they want to marry their significant other, without taking into account how the relationship may be affected throughout the years.
There are many leading causes to divorce, such as infidelity, arguing, incompatibility and financial struggles. While people tend to lack commitment, others just simply lose the feeling they had when they first decided it was a good idea to commit to something for life.
People grow and change throughout the years, causing both their morals and ideas of a steady relationship to shift. As people go through a relationship, communication is learned, but miscommunication comes into play as well. It is everyone’s first time living life, so learning while progressing through a relationship on a regular basis tends to create mood swings and frustration.
If people change yearly, imagine 10 years down the road how morals and beliefs are altered. Now imagine decades worth of changing. Having such change while being with that same person, likely means to grow apart.
Over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce or separation. With divorce comes financial struggles. Thousands of dollars are spent to undo situations people have willingly put themselves in.
Often many marry for loyalty. Dating should acquire loyalty even without the huge wedding or elopement. The memories can be sweet for a while, but then the regret sets in after the problems start to flow.
Engagements should be the farthest couples go with the satisfaction of being tied together, without the legibility. The pressure in today’s society to marry is extremely high. Seeing peers getting married and starting families can create a sense of urgency and fear of being left behind. Women often face questions and judgments about their single status, leading to increased anxiety and pressure to marry sooner rather than later. About 80 percent of women feel pressure to get married and strive to meet the goal to become wedded.The association with having a put-together life comes with marriage. Engagements can include living together and can be just as “put-together” as any marriage.
As inflation goes up each year, so do the expenses and opportunities lost for married couples. When two people marry, they may combine their debts, like student loans or credit card debt. One partner’s poor credit or high debt levels can affect the other’s financial situation. Depending on income levels, married couples may face a higher tax burden. Supplemental Security Income eligibility (SSI) and payment amount may change or stop due to the new spouse’s income and resources. If both partners get SSI, payment amount may change from a single person’s rate to a couple’s rate.
Sharing money causes a lot of situations to go bad. This can stem from one partner not being financially independent and having to lean on their partner more and more, until eventually the relationship breaks. The arguments spread into more issues, and lead to informality and distrust throughout the two people.
Marriage comes from having an unconditional kind of love, which is not the case for most marriages. In this day in age, marriage has little to no advantages, so people should think twice before acting on it.